Posts Tagged change

Self-Forgiveness – The Ultimate Charitable Act

Friday, April 9th, 2010


How often do you make yourself miserable with self-criticism and/or self-punishment over even minor faults or failings?  Do you spend your time blaming yourself for this and that and feeling guilty for what you did or did not do?

That type  of thinking keeps you in the past so that you are living your life in fear of the consequences of future acts and thus immobilizing yourself.  When you are wrapped up in blame thinking, you don’t enjoy the present.

Self-forgiveness will restore inner peace.  Forgiving yourself releases you from a part of yourself that would keep you in a loop of blame, shame, guilt and fear.  If you learn to forgive yourself, you activate the law of attraction which brings to you that which you send out.  If you wish to bring only forgiveness and love into your life, then you must send out only forgiveness and love which begins with yourself.

We all make mistakes. Sometimes mistakes are made, because we were never taught the appropriate action, and so we made an assumption of what was right.  Sometimes mistakes are made because we are not focused or taking time and care with what we are doing.  In reality, all happens according to a divine plan that brings us the lessons we need.

Ideally we learn something from our mistakes and don’t repeat the actions.  Self-forgiveness requires self-reflection that helps you to find the lesson.  Self-reflection helps you to see what happened and why along with what you can do to keep from doing the same things over and over.  Acknowledgment of the lesson stops the mistake from having power over you.

Years ago while teaching, I had a student who would hit himself in the head each time that he made a mistake.   Truly he felt himself deserving of punishment.  I asked him what he had learned from his mistake and he explained.  After a short chat, he never again felt the need to beat up on himself for his minor mistakes and learned how to forgive himself by focusing on what he had learned.

Taking responsibility for who you are and what you do allows you the opportunity to make more positive and lasting changes in your life and in your relationships.  You can resolve to change your behavior and act differently in the future, thus becoming self-responsible which leads to self-respect and self-love.

Self-forgiveness includes self-reflection on the lesson learned and self-responsibility for changing behaviors.  Self-forgiveness helps you to focus on the positive parts of your actions and restores your inner peace, thus allowing you to love yourself no matter what.   It also helps you to manifest forgiveness and love from others.  When you master self-forgiveness, then your heart will be more open to forgive others, too.  Thus, with self-forgiveness you heal the world and yourself.

Channeling by Sherry

Friday, February 5th, 2010

This is the time spoken of by so many, when the world shifts its consciousness. People begin to awaken to the corrupt and immoral actions going on around them and they speak out against it in ever larger and louder groups. Humanity’s path has changed and we begin to see where we have strayed from the path.

The ability to have compassion for others extends beyond the illusionary borders of States and Countries. Compassion for others awakens in us a desire to know the origins of the suffering that we see. This seeking for answers questions the status quo.

While deepening our connection to others, we begin to see the oneness that has always been but was disguised by “me”ness, a feeling of powerlessness and fatigue.

The Rosa Parks of the world, for centuries, have shown us that one person can begin a demand for change that becomes a groundswell to force change.

Cultivate True Peace

Tuesday, December 8th, 2009

No one knows better how to trigger stressful responses in you than your family members. Maintaining your inner peace is often a real challenge at holiday times when you are around family that you haven’t seen in a while.

No matter what your age is now, they expect you to still respond in the same manner to their remarks and antics as you did when you were younger. They don’t understand that you have grown mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. They are comfortable with the “old” you and seek to see that “old” you.

Can you smile at their antics, recognizing their discomfort with change and the fact that they are just reflecting where they are now? Can you honor who they are now with tolerance for they, too, are on their own spiritual path?

You are entitled to the opinion that while your spiritual path is on the “straight and narrow,” theirs is wandering all over the place, but can you respond without making that opinion a judgment? Can you reflect back peace with respect in your voice and manner?

Unconditional love accepts people for who they are. Acceptance does not mean that you aren’t expected to set a better example. People learn by example.

We are all teachers for others, but lecturing and berating others often turns them away. The axiom goes: “You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.” So, be sweetness and light.

These are some of our challenges as we seek peace within and cultivate true peace in the family and on the planet. Let’s make a plan to help you make it through these holiday times and beyond.

· Remember to do your Grounding every morning and every time you get upset. This will help you to run off your stress and see the world more objectively and less emotionally.

· Do your Brain Balancing every morning so you have the knowledge and wisdom to respond calmly and respectfully.

· Don’t take things personally, because people are really just trying to tell you where they are emotionally.

· Don’t let their drama become your drama.

· Remember, all are on their spiritual path no matter what route they take.

· Set a better example that you want them to follow. Be sweetness and light.

· Accept gifts graciously, because it shows the person was at least thinking of you.

· Set boundaries. This may be the season of giving but that doesn’t mean you have to give in to everyone’s demands of you. Acting out of Guilt is not coming from Love.

· When negativity comes into a discussion, change the subject.

May you find these suggestions helpful in cultivating true peace this holiday and beyond!

If you need to know how to Ground and Brain Balance, go to www.youtube.com/alterra1

The Keys to Healing Gateway 6/02/2009

Tuesday, June 2nd, 2009

Are You Ready? Change is Knocking.

Many of us right now are facing challenges and hoping for a miracle. Miracles, however, don’t always happen when you want them. The best option for transforming your life is to make changes in your day-to-day thoughts and behaviors.

Planetary shifts are happening, challenging us to move out of old patterns which no longer serve us. The world around you is not stagnant so it is time to get with the program.

You can’t really expect to get better results by doing everything exactly the way you always have. If you are seeking transformation, change has to be facilitated in order to allow it to happen. Wishing isn’t going to get you transformation, but action will.

Anyone who has a business will tell you how important it is to make changes from time to time. Even my local supermarket has recently rearranged its aisles to stimulate more impulse buying as people search for their intended purchases. Many corporations regularly change their ads seeking to stimulate sales.

Personal change begins with your decision to make things better. You may not have made that decision yet because you fear the challenges that come with change.

Yes, change may bring you moments of discomfort or challenge. The more you resist the challenges, the more difficult it is to make a transformation. To make the challenges less of a problem, you can do some preparation for your shift.

Don’t attempt to do a lot of shifting quickly without support. Develop a group of people who can give you guidance based on knowledge and experience. Have people that you can call on when you need to vent your frustrations or when you need to talk things out.

In addition, make sure that you are keeping yourself grounded to run off your stress. It also helps to allow yourself a little extra time for fun and for rest. We all need a break during trying times. Begin slowly because even weight lifters don’t try to lift 200 pound on their first attempt.

Begin to make the transformations that you are seeking whether they be on the mental, emotional, physical or spiritual levels. Open the door to change so you don’t get pestered by the continual knocking.

If nothing ever changed, there’d be no butterflies.~Author Unknown

Things do not change; we change.~Henry David Thoreau

The doors we open and close each day decide the lives we live.”Flora Whittemore

Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind. To the fearful it is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful it is encouraging because things may get better. To the confident it is inspiring because the challenge exists to make things better.~King Whitney Jr.

Change happens, that is for sure, and not just in our modern, 21st century era. It seems that the stress of the new affects most people in every age. So the trick is not to resist it, but to go with it.~ Author Unknown

Poof! You Are Healed!

Wednesday, March 4th, 2009

When we are sick, we desire a quick fix, a miracle cure. While miracles do happen, for the majority of us they are not always there when we want them.
What is a body to do? How about considering some of the habitual behaviors and/or thought patterns that got you into this uncomfortable situation? If what you are thinking or doing is not serving you, then it is time for change.
You are in charge of your body, and therefore you may NOT abdicate responsibility for the resultant sad state of affairs. Since the body always follows your thoughts, the mind is the place to begin to create the health you desire.
From there it proceeds to your will power and passion to make your decision a reality through action. Some say that this information was left out of “The Secret,” but it was there. A thought without action and commitment is just a passing thought which will not manifest the good you desire.
If you don’t take into account the fact that it may have taken you a long time to develop a bad thought habit, you may expect to shift your thoughts instantly without struggle. Remember that you have a well-worn neuropathway that needs to be shifted and that doesn’t happen over night. You will be challenged and tempted often to go back on your decision to change.
However, don’t beat yourself up when a thought starts once again on that well worn- pathway of negativity. Just say: “Cancel. Clear.” This lets the Universe know that you recognize the thought as negative and do not choose to send that energy out for manifestation.
You also need to be able to call on some tools to help you. These tools can be friends to encourage you and keep you accountable, distractions to shift your thoughts to more pleasurable things or small rewards that you give yourself for sticking to your decision.
If you are determined to make changes in your life, set up a plan, set yourself a deadline, and decide on the tools that will best help you meet your goal.
Don’t forget that one of your tools should be gratitude for all that you have and all that you will receive.
In addition, an Energy Healing can assist you by removing emotional triggers, removing any negative energies from your field to help you shift your perceptions. You won’t find me saying, “Poof! You are Healed!” but you will find me supporting and facilitating your choice for a healthier life.