Are you making New Year’s Resolutions or are you setting Goals?  Ideally, you are doing both.

Being successful at making change in your life requires more than the wish or the desire to change. Resolutions must have passion behind them and a commitment to success. However, this may not be enough if you have not taken certain action steps with short term goals to achieve the success you desire.

According to the American Society of Training and Development, you have only a 10% possibility of completing a goal if you just think of an idea and only  a 25% probability of completion, if you consciously turn  the idea into a resolution.

To increase your probability of success there are a few goal-setting steps that will help you.  You will have a 40% probability of completion if you set yourself a deadline.  Before setting the deadline, you may need to create a plan of action with little steps or small reasonable goals leading to your big goal.

When creating your action plan, look at the obstacles that may get in the way of achieving your goal.  For example, are there some people that you may need to avoid or spend less time with? This may include those who are not supportive of your goals.  Is there an upcoming big event that may get in the way of achieving your goals?

In your action plan, you need to consider what resources you will need in the way of money, time , or tools.  How much energy do you need to follow your steps to success?  Do you have the money needed or can you rebudget your finances to have the funds?    Is your schedule too full to find time to do what is necessary?  Perhaps you need to set some priorities on what needs to be done and what is not required for goal success.  Are there other things needed to guarantee success, like diet changes, classes, technical assistance, or special equipment?

Not everyone can achieve success without support.  Do you have family or friends who will support and help you reach your goals?  Would you benefit from contacting a professional?  Do you know someone with a similar goal who can be your companion as you both strive for success?

Having all of this in your plan of action increase your probability of success to 50%, but those odds of success are not what most of us want to hear.

So what are the key ingredients to tip the scales more in favor of your success?  Remember the decision of setting a completion date for meeting your goal?  Telling somebody else what you will accomplish within a certain time limit increases your success rate to 65%.

Now to really increase the chances of success up to 95%, you will need to have someone who will hold you accountable for your success.  Oh the embarrassment, if you have to face another when the time is up and success is still elusive.  This is a big incentive to actively pursue your goals.

In conclusion, for success with resolutions and goals:  1)Decide on a resolution/goal; 2) Plan on how to tackle the goal; 3) Decide when you will complete the goal; 4) Share your goal with someone; 5)Meet with an individual who is holding you accountable for your dedication, hard work and success.

As a bonus I have provided an additional step for you:  Set your goals on January 4th.  Astrologically, January 4th is the optimal day for setting your goals for 2011.  January 4th is a triple- charged day.  On this day there will be a new moon which is considered a time of new beginnings.  The new moon signifies a great day to experience the full intensity of your big or immediate needs in life.  January 4th there will also be a solar eclipse.  This is a powerful time for old things to come to an end and for new beginnings to be made.  During the wee hours of January 4th, a Quadranti Meteor shower is expected to bring in an energy that amplifies your chances of success.

May your New Year bring you joy, happiness, health, abundance, and success while offering you gentle challenges for growth and enlightenment.

Your Greatest Gift

Don’t bother looking under the Christmas tree for your greatest gift.  You won’t find it there, or anywhere outside of yourself, for your greatest gift lies within.

You are attuned to the noises of daily living, but often forget to tune in to your inner spiritual voice.  You spend your time busily seeking happiness, but not finding it.  You need to accept that you are who and what you are seeking.  The only way to find yourself is to look within.  Spending time alone with yourself puts you in touch with who and what you are and helps you connect to your inner guidance.

When going within, you begin to hear what your heart truly thinks and believes, instead of what others have conditioned you or told you to believe.  Once you are able to just BE and access stillness, you will be able to look at the world around you with greater perception and discernment.  When you are more at one with yourself, you are able to recognize the external influences on your thinking from friends, family, and your surrounding environment.

Going within also helps you to access information not normally available.  You will begin to hear the voice of your Higher Self providing answers and direction. All answers lie within.  Enlightenment does not come from doing but from BEing silent so you can tune in to guidance.

You can consciously cultivate your inner voice.  Sit or lie in a quiet location where you will not be disturbed.  Close your eyes, focus within your heart, and ask to connect  with your Higher Self.  Let your mind go blank.  Just BE.  Note the thoughts that come, but don’t dwell on them.  If they are negative or fearful thoughts, know that your ego is trying to control your thoughts.  Your ego is not your true voice. Send love to your fears and negativity, then release the thoughts and send them on their way.

In quiet contemplation there is happiness and joy where you are able to realize who you are and your magnificence , then you can easily recognize and appreciate the unique magnificence of all around you.  Once you find your inner peace, then you are able to assist others to find their inner peace and ultimately you assist in achieving world peace.  What greater gift could there be?

May you find your greatest gift within that brings you joy, peace and enlightenment!

Gratitude is the heart’s memory.  French proverb

“Develop an attitude of gratitude and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step towards achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.” ~ Brian Tracy

Gratitude Shifts Memory

The Coin by Sara Teasdale

Into my heart’s treasury
I slipped a coin
That time cannot take
Nor a thief purloin, –
Oh, better than the minting
Of a gold-crowned king
Is the safe-kept memory
Of a lovely thing.

Do you think of all of your memories as “lovely things?”  Each of your memories came with a lesson. Are you able to accept all of your lessons whether good or bad, with gratitude?

Often your lessons are presented to you by individuals who come into your life.  Can you say that you appreciate each individual for the lesson that they have presented to you?

What would happen if you spent time looking for the lessons?  Would you be able to shift your thinking to gratitude for each lesson presented? Would gratitude help you to let go of any bitterness, anger or upset that you may have felt?

Not everything that happens to us feels pleasant in the moment.  Just as the symbolic heart’s treasury is full of pleasant moments, the body can also be a storage location for your upsetting emotional experiences.  Over time, the unpleasant emotions stored in the body become problem areas for pain and disease.

All disease is an indication of “dis-ease” or unresolved issues that are stored in your body. If you think of your body as having many pathways for the movement of healing energy then you might want to consider disease to be like a road block.  Until you get movement at the blockage point, your body’s natural flow of energy remains blocked leading ultimately to major “dis-ease” in the body.

Now let’s look at a way to avoid creating blockages in the body.  The Universe presents you with many challenges that are really just opportunities for growth.  In order to take advantage of these opportunities, you can begin to look at what triggered your negative emotional response; what your true feelings are about what happened; what memories the event brings up; and what you need to let go of to put you back in the flow.

If you can step back when you have been triggered into upset and contemplate what the lesson might be in all that is happening, you may then be able to see the lesson being presented.  Once you recognize the lesson then you can replace any negative emotions with feelings of gratitude for the lesson received.

Feelings of gratitude can help turn an initially upsetting event into a lovely memory of a lesson learned.  This would eliminate creating blockages in the body that ultimately destroy your health.

Often the first sign of “dis-ease” is stress and tension in the body.  If you are experiencing this, you may need assistance in recognizing and releasing issues. An intuitive energy healing session can help you.  In an environment of unconditional love, you feel comfortable enough to look at issues that you may have avoided dealing with for many years.

May you have many lovely memories blessed by gratitude for lessons learned, so that the energy in your body is freely flowing with perfect health.

Thoughts to Ponder

Those who bring sunshine to the lives of others cannot keep it from themselves. ~ James Barrie

Do what you can to show you care about other people, and you will make our world a better place. ~ Rosalynn Carter

Thoughts to Ponder

Setting an example is not the main means of influencing another, it is the only means. ~Albert Einstein

Each person must live their life as a model for others. ~ Rosa Parks



What Kind of Example are You Setting?

Most religions and philosophies talk about being good examples. Many in the Christian faith have heard the expression, “What would Jesus do?” (WWJD) This is to serve as a reminder to imitate Christ in all thoughts, words and deeds. Pondering this phrase assists one in moving things into a more loving and compassionate view of others.

Jesus was not our only example of the way we should behave. We have had many examples throughout history: Gandhi, the Dalai Lama, Mother Teresa, Eleanor Roosevelt, Linus Pauling, Martin Luther King, Nelson Mandela. It is important to note that every one of us serves as an example for others.

There are so many sad stories in the news of people deliberately doing things that hurt others. I know that these individuals are in need of all the Love, Light, Blessings, Prayers and assistance that we can send them and their victims. Don’t people understand that we ALL ARE ONE? Our actions send out a ripple effect, like a pebble in a pond, affecting more people than you can imagine.

Remember the Golden Rule: “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.” When living by this rule, all are treated with consideration since we each appreciate just treatment for ourselves. In addition, we don’t wish to have poor choices cause us future karmic backlash.

Setting an example is something that we do on a daily basis, even when we are unaware of who is watching or listening. If you doubt this, watch little children and listen to what comes out of their mouths when you didn’t know they were paying attention to you.

It is important to remember that YOU CAN ONLY CHANGE YOU. By changing yourself, you become a better example for others. At the end of each day, try reviewing the experiences you have had and see if there was any place where you did not apply the Golden Rule. Then visualize how you could have shifted things into a more loving light. This will help you to break out of negative patterns to become a positive example. You may even want to journal your experiences so you can look back later and see how much you have changed.

Spiritual growth and evolution involves a process of differentiation of one way of looking at life and oneself into another way of perceiving oneself and the world. BE THE EXAMPLE of what you wish to see in the world, and eventually we will all see the results, not only of you changing you, but of others changing, too.

Thoughts to Ponder

Be able to notice all the confusion between fact and opinion that appears in the news.  Marilyn vos Savant

But by showing us live coverage of every bad thing happening everywhere in the world, cable news makes life seem like it’s just an endless string of disasters – when, for most people in most places today, life is fairly good.   Gregg Easterbrook

When you’re watching the news, how many days in a row can you watch that and feel good about yourself and the world?   Sandra Bernhard

Thoughts to Ponder

For every bit of kindness and love you show someone, both of you share in its sunshine. Whatever you send out returns to you a thousand fold.  Author Unknown

The everyday kindness of the back roads more than makes up for the acts of greed in the headlines. ~ Charles Kuralt

Everyone has inside of him a piece of good news. The good news is that you don’t know how great you can be! How much you can love! What you can accomplish! And what your potential is!   Anne Frank

No News is Good News

I wrote this article back in 2000, but felt a need to update it and share it again now.

I awakened with a nagging question: What does the world gain by you retelling that story?   ”Story” refers to negative news and gossip.  When receiving negative news, we make judgments that the world is full of bad people and terrifying events.  Repeating such judgments leads us and others into fear.

If you believe, as I do, that thought creates, then, it is important that we hold positive thoughts about the world and its inhabitants. We must step back from allowing situations in which judgments of others are made. Stories that arouse passionate, judgmental feelings of others will not create better people or a better world.

Dr. Andrew Weil suggests a “news break,” but it is sometimes difficult to avoid exposure to news reports. Stations often repeat the same stories over and over, and many acquaintances seek our reactions to these news events.

In the interest of a better world, I decided to change my news habits. Then I thought about my own “news.”  Do I really need the pity of others by going into all the details of challenges in my life?  Can I put more focus on the lessons learned from each life challenge? Could I take a more compassionate view of world happenings?  I knew it would be difficult, but I was willing to try.

I made the following commitments:

I will avoid reading, watching or listening to the news.

I will avoid judgments of others.

I will avoid retelling stories that cause someone to think ill of another.

I will focus on the lessons that others are learning from their actions while remembering  that each individual is on their own path.

I will send them Love and Light to support them on their journey.

Three months passed without my reading a newspaper or watching the news. I really didn’t miss it. I have much more joy in my life and have found myself able to avoid the myriad of judgmental thoughts that had come so frequently.  Many people feel the need to build a wall around their home to live “safely.” I am surrounded by a loving, caring world now, and I find that I have more love in my heart to give and share with others.  I realized the world will be changed by those who have replaced fear with love.

I wonder how it will affect all of those investigative news shows if many of us change our news habits. It is important to me to do justice to this topic if the world thought is to be changed for a more positive view of others. How much more trusting of others would we become?

How less apt would we be to misinterpret or judge the words and actions of others? How much could we effect progress toward world peace? Can we get a “good news” paper printed daily instead of the alarming headlines we now read?

Would we all feel better physically without losing our energy to emotionally upsetting tales?  Have we been keeping ourselves weak?  With less fear and judgment of others, would we be able to come together for the greater good?  What good in the world could we do with extra energy everyday and by sending love to those who are struggling with challenges?

Update 2010:  I still don’t miss reading or listening to the news.  The little news that I do receive often does not sound positive, and so I use the information to send love, light and prayer for all those involved.  I refuse to get involved in other people’s drama or to let fear take the place of love. Please, join me in being a beacon of light with lots of extra energy to make a positive difference through love, light and prayer.